Having needs doesn’t make you needy. You are only as needy as your unfulfilled need.

I was talking to my friends about their dating lives and it’s so horrifying to hear that people are so extremely wishy washy about what they want… sending mixed signals, and just overall terrible communicators.

I think the app dating era has intensified and glorified the “laissez-faire” attitude in dating.

Only in the current dating world that we are asking people to “chill” when people are taking us seriously.

It’s baffling… we are all incredibly busy. Shouldn’t we take one another seriously when it comes to people we are choosing to occupy our time?

This isn’t even about discussing each other’s expectations or level of commitment. Isn’t it human decency to value your own and others’ time?

I get that we are all in fear of people seeing us as high-maintenance or god forbid, needy. But having needs doesn’t make you needy. You are only as needy as your unfulfilled need. Even the most casual relationships are fulfilling some type of need for each party involved.

So give yourself some pat on the back for trying to date these days. Y’all deserve a medal for what you’re putting up with.

Also more importantly, state your intention and needs clearly, ask about their intention and needs, walk away if there’s a mismatch, you’ll both forget about each other in no time.

It’s not embarrassing, it’s also not about your ego. It’s about not wasting your own time playing a dumb game of “who cares more”.